If you're like me, you've already started to see your New Years resolutions slip away from you. Things aren't going quite the way you imagined they would and you're starting to wonder if you'll ever make it work.
I find that I need to remind myself of what I know to be true regularly to keep me on track. Thinking about these things reminds me of how far I've come and gives me confidence to push forward.
Here's a list of things I learned in 2014 that I've been trying to remember in 2015. Chin up! You got this!
- When I'm feeling anxious I can reframe my physical feelings as excitement. It doesn't change my physiology, but it does change my perception of it, which then has the power to change my performance. Read this to learn about why this works.
- All my suffering comes from the stories that I tell myself about what's going on, not from the events themselves. I've been doing this more and more to try and stop these stories from running my life.
- The only thing I can count on changing is me.
- I am stronger than I think I am - I bounce back.
- Reminding myself that it's not all about me and focusing on others can help me break out of dark places.
- There is a soft, loving, compassionate place inside me that I can access at any time. To connect with this place, I put my hand over my heart and breathe deep. I like to think of it as my 'inner smile'.
- Sitting and thinking, worrying, or ruminating doesn't help anything. Getting up and getting moving does.
- I can use my senses to bring me into the present moment. Paying attention to the feeling of my feet on the ground, my legs on a chair, or listening to the ambient sounds is a solid way to break my attachment to my thoughts and help me find balance again.
- Just start. I've learned that I can't choose a wrong place to start. Everything I try leads to something else.
- Start before you're ready. If I wait until everything is ideal, I will never start anything.
- I can only do one thing at a time. When I am working on something, I need to give it my absolute, full attention.
- Schedule the day. Then do what's on the schedule. This has been a huge game changer for me.
- Encourage others whenever possible - but especially when I'm feeling stuck or down on myself.
- In a loving relationship, where both parties are equally invested in making it work, when I put that person's needs before mine, my needs will be met.
- When I feel stuck in my head is when I most need to communicate - to make sure those around me don't feel shut out.
- Feeling good requires relentless commitment.
- To truly love someone I need to stop trying to change who they are.
- Take note of what happens every day that feels good, and what I did that made me feel good.
- I have everything I need inside myself.
- I will find the answers I need when I need them.
- When feeling bad, think about what would feel really good right now? Sometimes even just letting myself imagine feeling good lifts my mood.
- Smile at my reflection, instead of scowling about what I think is wrong with it.
- Stand/sit up straight. It makes me feel more balanced and level.
- Watch comedies. Laughter is never a waste of time.
- Write things down. Check in with how I'm doing every day.
- Clean my own space first.
- Read books that teach or remind me how to feel good.
What are some truths that you've learned and need to remind yourself of?
This is a new series where I write about the people that inspire me to be more creative every day: the people who live and breathe creativity and are using their passion to make the world a better place. I've also written about Nick Bantock, Jim Hensen, and Lisa Congdon.
Who is Amanda Palmer?
A musician that got her start performing in the punk-cabaret band the Dresden Dolls and is still touring. She became famous outside of her music circles when she launched a very successful (well over $1 million) Kickstarter campaign to fund her album and tour. Some people thought it was great that she was ditching the label model and connecting directly with her fans, some people thought she was misusing the platform and didn't deserve to get so much money. She has since done a TedTalk and written a book, both called The Art of Asking, about how and why she decided to take such a drastically different approach. She is married to fantasy writer, Neil Gaiman - another one of my creative role models.
A little boost of positivity in the form of a delicious chocolate
I recently took a class with Coursera (an amazing FREE resource, btw) on Positive Psychology and I loved it. Though I've long believed that positivity was the key to creative output and better relationships, I always love finding science to back up and explain my experiences.
In the course and in her book, Positivity, Barbara Fredrickson explains her theory of why humans have evolved with positive emotions, which she calls the 'Broaden and Build' theory. According to the theory, negative emotions prepare us for one specific action. Fear prepares us to run or to fight while anger prepares us to confront someone. Negative emotions narrow our fields of view to deal with the problem at hand, but positive emotions do the opposite. Positive emotions help us broaden our awareness and build resources for the future.
To me, this kind of open mindset is the key to creativity. When we're open to the world we take in more information, try out more ideas, and see more of what inspires us. Fredrickson explains that this is more than just a nice metaphor - it has been tested vigorously in numerous studies. (more…)
So much creativity was unleashed at my Easter egg decorating party last weekend
Link list posts sometimes feel like sort of a cop-out so I hesitated about posting one. But then I thought, is there ever a better time to cop out than right before vacation? These should keep you busy for awhile. (If you're not subscribed to my newsletter then you won't know that I'm heading to the Middle East for 3 weeks next Thursday. SO excited. If you want insider updates on my process and what I'm up to, sign up using the form on the right of the page.)
This is a great project idea, with a huge following. If I was here I would consider doing it just to be a part of something so big - the connections and inspiration gained would be amazing.
"What is creative living? Any life that is driven more strongly by curiosity than by fear." Elizabeth Gilbert
My boyfriend and I like to go back-country camping. We hike into the woods for a few hours then set up camp far far away from other humans. It's glorious. Our favourite part is exploring the area around our camp. We usually camp in the mountains so there's always plenty of scrambling and hiking to be done and we feel pulled by a deep sense of curiosity. What's at the top of this hill or this spillway? What's around that next corner? What are we going to find? The photos in this post are from a camping trip last summer where we didn't really know what we were getting into, but dove in anyway.
I'm sure you know the feeling of being magnetically drawn towards something that you want to know more about: an unexpected package that arrives at your doorstep, or a new piece of public art that catches your eye. (more…)
A lot of people I know who got Bachelors of Arts were kicking themselves after they graduated because they didn't get a more "useful" degree. I didn't have that problem - I knew that studying drama wouldn't put me on a fast track to mega-success, but it was what I most wanted to do. I had always planned on going to university (all learning, all the time? You couldn't keep me away if you tried). And drama was what I was most passionate about at the time.
Afterwards I decided not to pursue work in theatre and there are times when I wonder if I wasted those 4 (okay 5) years.
Then I remember everything I learned about creativity, productivity, and life. And I feel better. (more…)
“Trust that still small voice that says, “This might work and I’ll try it.” Diane Mariechild
So. You want to work on being more creative everyday. You want to establish a creative practice, you want to jump in on those projects you've been dreaming about. But you have no idea where to start. Should you take a class? Should you start a 30-day challenge? Should you ask your friend for help? Should you just start messing around and see what happens? The choices spin around in your mind and, day after day, you do nothing. It's too hard.
Starting is the hardest part of any project or practice. And when there is no clear starting point, it's even harder. Here are some ideas on identifying what exactly is making it so hard to get started, and what to do about it. (more…)
I've instituted a monthly "spa day" for myself where I spend an entire day not working and doing whatever I need to re-energize and rejuvenate. For February's spa day I went to a public library and wandered the non-fiction shelves for an hour, because this is an incredibly energizing activity for me. I see so many interesting topics, ideas, and images and I am often almost overwhelmed by inspiration. The photo above is one shelf of the nature/science section and I swear I wish I could read every single one of those books, they all look that interesting. (more…)
I'm starting a new series where I write about the people that inspire me to be more creative every day: the people who live and breathe creativity and are using their passion to make the world a better place. You can find more inspiration posts here, here, and here.
Who is Lisa Congdon?
She's a successful artist and illustrator based in San Francisco (thought she's been mentioning moving to Portland), and I've been following her blog and her Instagram. According to her website, she does commissions for all kinds of big name companies like Martha Stewart and MoMA. She has also written some books, including Art Inc: The Essential Guide to Building Your Career as an Artist and teaches courses on Creative Bug and Creative Live. (more…)
My contribution to the Unfinished Painting Challenge
Yesterday I came across Lisa Congdon's Doodling Manifesto. In it she talks about the importance of making a mark just for its own sake, and how every creative thing we do - no matter how messy or imperfect - is important. It gets us closer to who we are and to who we want to be. This struck me as a really important point. To be creative, we must learn to be imperfect. And not just imperfect: we must learn to make awful, terrible, ugly work just for the sake of making something. The more we make, the better we get.
I often find myself butting up against this idea. I get caught thinking that I only have time to make stuff that meets my high standards, that's good enough to sell. Often playing and messing around feels like a giant waste of time. (more…)